PARKER Jeffrey Herbert (Joe) Remembering your surprise '90th' party on September 3rd, 2001, I organised alone. Also, your elder brother John Aubrey Parker. The way you lived your long life dad, was more important than the avoidable way it ended. Robbed of saying my 'goodbyes'. Confirmed Alzheimer's nobody accepted but, demented untruths were, throughout. 30 years caring myself often unwell, without support, respect, gratitude, sensitivity or sympathy. All for the love and welfare of my mentally and physically elderly, infirm unwell father. (The jealousies, subterfuge and conspiracies I'll never forgive). You're so loved and missed dad, however, not those terrifying sudden outbursts. Your loving Jen xx second of three.